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But I’m not one to judge; I used to feel the same way. even though I knew better, even though I knew he was crazy about me, even though I was confident that he was “the one,” a part of me was absolutely terrified that maybe I was wrong, maybe I would screw this up just as I had screwed up so many relationships in the past (him included; we dated in high school and it ended because I wanted things to be more serious …

Instead of getting swept up in how cute or charming or exciting a guy is, ask yourself if he has the qualities you want in a long-term partner, and look at how he treats you in general.

That is the real question to consider, the one that would have saved me personally from years of heartache and pain had I given it any thought. If you feel insecure about yourself or the relationship, nothing he says will change that.

The fear that his feelings will suddenly change with a sudden gust of wind is often the result of something within you, not something he is doing (and if it is the result of his behavior, then he probably isn’t the right guy for you, or isn’t serious about the relationship).

If you put pressure on the relationship, you squeeze the life out of it and it stops being enjoyable and fun.

A new relationship can be as exhilarating as it is terrifying.

You finally found that guy you click with, someone you really enjoy spending time with who seems to really like you …

and you’re terrified of screwing it up, of making some deadly mistake that will end things before they even start.