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Christian separated and dating

Trust your inner wisdom on this one: you are at risk of giving your heart away to a man who is still married to another woman.

Question: "I am in the process of getting a divorce.

Can I start dating, or do I have to wait until the divorce is final?

That is, the innocent spouse has been abandoned by his/her unbelieving spouse or has been cheated on by an unrepentant adulterer.

In either case, the innocent spouse is mostly likely in a state of emotional turmoil and vulnerability.

Don’t let yourself be charmed by the image of this man as someone who would delay his own happiness (in the form of finalizing the divorce) for the sake of sparing his wife’s feelings. But the truth is, he’s most likely still married because he doesn’t want a divorce yet.

So the man you are falling for is still legally tied to his wife. It means that until a final divorce decree is issued all of this man’s assets and liabilities are still connected to his wife, no matter what he might have told you about accounts having been divided.

First Thessalonians instructs us to “abstain from all appearance of evil” (KJV).

The better choice is to abstain from any action that could endanger one spiritually or give the impression to others of a careless attitude toward marriage.

Most people going through a divorce, even when it is not their fault and even when they have biblical reasons, are usually shattered by the circumstances and not in any frame of mind to be “dating.” People don’t usually make good decisions while “on the rebound.” For a still-hurting divorced person or someone in a painful divorce process to be dating is neither wise nor prudent.

The abandoned spouse may indeed be lonely, but making clear-headed, godly relationship decisions in such a situation is difficult, if not impossible.

Two people are married to each other until a divorce decree is granted (whether they live in the same house or not).